If you’re out at the bar and you spot a woman that you’d like to talk to, what is your first thing that you’ll say to her? If it is some tired excuse for a pick-up line that’s been used by millions of men across the world—stop. Don’t even open your mouth. This may sound harsh, but I’m saving you from potentially humiliating yourself and ruining your chances with having a real conversation with the lady.


Let’s be honest here. Pick-up lines rarely, if ever, work. You have to be a real Casanova and have confidence to turn a bad pick up line into something smooth. If you aren’t a Casanova, here are a few ideas that could help you break the ice and begin chatting with the lovely lady.


Open the conversation with a mild joke.  Everyone likes to be around people who can make them laugh. If you don’t like to laugh, well… That’s an issue for another article. The truth of the matter is that women are more responsive to someone who can make her laugh. The way you implement a joke as an ice breaker is by making a joke about the surroundings. If you’re standing in line at the grocery store, you could joke about how slow the line is moving—but do not use this opportunity to joke about her firm melons.


Offer a genuine compliment. Ladies like to be complimented, that much is a given. What men may not realize is that they can detect a standard compliment that has absolutely no thought behind it. While some women may fall for the generic “You’re beautiful” line, it can fall flat. If you manage to switch it up and say something along the lines of, “Excuse me, I noticed you from across the room and I had to come over and tell you how lovely your smile is,” it’ll get you noticed. Instead of complimenting on her body, you’re focusing on a feature. Yes, the feature is still a part of her body (duah), you’re picking something specific and you’re adding sincerity. No woman wants to feel objectified. Plus by commenting on her smile will surely make her smile more and that could open the gates for a nice and casual conversation.


Be Yourself, Smile, and Make Eye Contact. Sometimes nothing needs to be said at all. If you are a few tables over from the lady in question, make eye contact with her occasionally. If she holds the gaze for a moment or two, offer a smile and a nod. If this sort of flirting continues, you can should go over and strike up a casual conversation. Comment on the atmosphere of the venue you’re at, ask if you could dance with her (if there is music), or come right out and ask if you could have her number.


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